Our value immunity system determines how we interact with other individuals and how we handle affairs. It helps us to live out our philosophy of life. It is the underlying factor of whether we dare to confront challenges when a crisis hits. Value immunity comes from our personal values. That is to say, our value immunity is shaped by our values. Yes, that was a pretty redundant statement. However, the strength of our value immunity is indeed directly proportional to the core values we possess. What are the values that you hold dearly? What do you regard as meaningful? Throughout your life, your background, culture, education, environment and experience constantly mould your values. You spend time on whatever you think is important. These gradually bend into your mindset to influence your actions, eventually leading to the outcome of your life. Whatever your life turns out to be, it is a result of personal values.
During the MCO, most people choose to “lock” themselves up in their home having nothing to do. They either eat, sleep and repeat or indulge themselves on the internet or in video games. On the other hand, the minority has chosen to “stay” at home by reading books and planning their future. While allowing room for pondering, they enrich their minds in preparation to embrace new challenges. They even work out so that their body becomes more agile and sturdy, procuring an appealing body figure that makes them more attractive. Anyhow, to “lock” yourself up at home or to “stay” at home is a choice that derives from your personal values.
We ought to treasure the moments with our family during this lockdown, but, instead, we notice that the news often reports happenings on disputes and domestic violence. We ought to respect our family’s thoughts and decisions, but why, as we spend more time with them, we tend to act the exact opposite? Value immunity is the main reason. Something is wrong with it. If all of us establish proper values, we will put relationships over trivial matters. We will acknowledge that each of us is a separate entity which requires freedom and space. Communication and appreciation are crucial for living in harmony, as we learn to accept people the way they are, without bickering over disagreements on facial masks and house chores. Respect, independence, autonomy and mutual understanding are keys to maintain a harmonious household. The pandemic is merciless, but humans are full of mercy. In times of difficulty, we should learn to humble ourselves, accept and tolerate people and cherish and support each other. True friendship stands out in difficult times: I believe our interpersonal relationships will flourish with time!
Deterred from reuniting with their family due to the MCO, some individuals are forced to spend the seemingly endless time all by themselves. The isolation might magnify negative emotions that weaken their souls. Nevertheless, in life, you won’t have a partner every hour and minute of the day. Learn to receive occasional loneliness. Make use of this time to reflect on yourself, understand your true character and plan your future. Learn to divert your mood by making arrangements for your daily life. Do some household activities that are physically and mentally beneficial, or even take the initiative to reach out to your relatives and friends. By talking to them and maintaining the ties, you won’t be absorbed in self-pity anymore. Be creative with your daily activities. Rest your exhausted mind properly so that you are ready to embark on the upcoming journey.
No matter whether you are with or without your family, you will reap what you sow: spend time on aspects you value now, and you will acquire results after the MCO. For example, you put an effort in health, learning, personal growth, interpersonal relationships and future planning. You will end up with a healthier body, a creative mind, an optimistic attitude, warm ties and a comprehensive plan and measures for the future. That’s why you can uncover whatever another person has been doing during the MCO when inspecting the latter’s mental health index. The index also reflects a person’s true desires and core values. Therefore, what have you been doing during the lockdown? Is your everyday life meaningful? Will you be prepared and rejuvenated to continue your walk of life after the restriction is lifted? Or have you been passing the time without a purpose? Have you been binge-watching drama series or surfing the internet so much that you are feeling down and mentally weary?
Let me summarise the whole lot above. If you ask me what value immunity does, I’d say it makes us immune to wasting time, accomplishing nothing, living our lives in vain and trapping ourselves in our comfort zone. Maybe it protects us against the consequences of ridiculous mistakes! It is not an exaggeration to crown value immunity as the foundation of all immunity systems. Let’s evaluate our values and adopt those that are beneficial to our life so that our short days on earth are worthy and meaningful.
Translated by Liana Ling